The "Change Lab" and more with Lisa DeAngelis on the Authenticity Calling Podcast

On this episode of the Authenticity Calling Podcast Ralitza and Lisa discussed the concept of authenticity, its evolution over time, and the importance of being true to oneself while respecting boundaries. They also explored the impact of past experiences on our perceptions and emotions, and the role of coaching in personal growth. Lastly, Lisa shared her upcoming book and projects, emphasizing the value of curiosity, embracing change, and developing core values for sustainable adaptation.

Discussing Authenticity and Embracing Fullness Ralitza and Lisa discussed the concept of authenticity and how it evolves over time. Lisa shared her journey of seeking authenticity, which led her to understand that it's not about defining oneself with specific traits, but about embracing one's fullness and showing up authentically in the present moment. Ralitza agreed, highlighting that authenticity is a fluid state that shifts with one's environment and personal growth. They also discussed the importance of being in the right community to support and explore one's authenticity.

Learning Authenticity From Horses Lisa shared her profound experience with working with horses and the valuable lessons she learned about authenticity and congruence. She emphasized the importance of being true to oneself in the present moment, a concept she learned through her interactions with the horses. Ralitza found the conversation insightful and thought-provoking, noting its relevance to various aspects of life, including relationships and personal development. Both agreed on the potential for individuals to learn from the animal kingdom and the need for authenticity in all aspects of life.

Safety Awareness and Supportive Communities Lisa and Ralitza discussed the importance of establishing safety in different environments. Lisa emphasized the need for developing awareness to increase safety and reduce patterns of hypervigilance, while Ralitza shared her experiences of living in places where safety was a constant concern. They both agreed on the importance of being able to let one's guard down in a safe environment, and the value of having a supportive community that promotes safety and respects personal boundaries.

Authenticity, Vulnerability, and Emotions Ralitza emphasized the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in a hyper-vigilant environment, reflecting on the paradoxical discomfort people often feel when they can't be their true selves. She also highlighted the societal expectation of men not to express their emotions, suggesting this as a potential barrier to authenticity. Lisa then introduced the concept of 'constructed emotion' proposed by Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, explaining how emotions are predictive responses based on bodily imbalances and past experiences. Both Ralitza and Lisa underscored the significance of understanding and managing emotions for overall well-being and authenticity.

Past Experiences, Brain Predictions, and Coaching Lisa and Ralitza discussed the role of past experiences in shaping our predictive brain and how it impacts our capacity to recall and utilize new experiences. They considered the example of veterans returning from war who experience PTSD and how their system misinterprets non-threatening situations due to their heightened state of hypervigilance. Lisa suggested that men, due to having less tangible experiences, may be less able to recall and adapt to new situations. Ralitza emphasized the importance of coaching as an impartial perspective that can help individuals grow and develop.

Authenticity, Boundaries, and Personal Growth Ralitza and Lisa discussed the importance of authenticity, boundaries, and safety in personal growth and relationships. They explored the idea that true authenticity involves being true to oneself while also respecting the boundaries of others. They also emphasized the need to embrace discomfort and vulnerability as a part of the growth process. Both agreed on the value of personal reflection and questioning as means to discover one's true self and to establish healthy boundaries. They also highlighted the importance of creating a safe space for oneself and others to foster authenticity and growth.

Discussing Lisa's Book on Embracing Change Lisa and Ralitza discuss Lisa's upcoming book "Embracing the Unknown" about the process of change. The book explores why change is difficult but necessary, approaching change through stretching personal boundaries, giving oneself permission, and shifting perspectives and more. Lisa hopes readers will be inspired to choose their own journey of growth and self-discovery.

Lisa's Personal Development and Change Lab Lisa shared her insights on personal development and the importance of embracing change. She also discussed her upcoming group work, "The Change Lab," and her one-on-one coaching program, "Guided." Ralitza expressed her admiration for Lisa's work and encouraged her to continue spreading her message.

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